One of the greatest concerns that many of my clients come to me with is--the fear that surrounds their inability to remember what they feel about their childhoods.
This is ridiculously common--and in fact--it totally ticks me off, and although I am able to resolve my anger fairly quickly--it never does not infuriate me when I meet another being who has been treated so neglectfully.
As children who have been born to parents who could not 'SEE' us--the innocent being within the suit of flesh--they believed they owned--we have been conditioned to stuff our feelings--and to tone our feelings down.
When your parents are so self absorbed--critical--condescending--and demeaning--you fear stepping out of bounds like you fear slipping into a bed of scorpions. Your frightening experiences have taught you--to stay on guard--to smile on cue--and to pretend everything is okay--especially when it isn't.
It is never alright to express your Self when you are a child of an alcoholic--because they will never 'hear' you. Alcoholics--live their lives in denial--and that means they deny YOU as well. You--the child of an alcoholic or narcissist--do not exist--and your feelings--well--they'll use them against you--twist them like warm pretzels--and shove them up your butt too.
Yes, there is anger in my words--and that's okay, because it is normal, right and good to be angry at parents who were blessed with innocent beings to raise--who instead used them like pawns, and treated them with indifference.
To all those ACoA's out there--who have been treated as if their emotions were irrelevant--this post is for you!
I SEE YOU--AND I FIGHT FOR YOU--WHEN I FIGHT FOR ONE OF US!!!
Namaste...
https://twitter.com/lisaaromano1
This is ridiculously common--and in fact--it totally ticks me off, and although I am able to resolve my anger fairly quickly--it never does not infuriate me when I meet another being who has been treated so neglectfully.
As children who have been born to parents who could not 'SEE' us--the innocent being within the suit of flesh--they believed they owned--we have been conditioned to stuff our feelings--and to tone our feelings down.
When your parents are so self absorbed--critical--condescending--and demeaning--you fear stepping out of bounds like you fear slipping into a bed of scorpions. Your frightening experiences have taught you--to stay on guard--to smile on cue--and to pretend everything is okay--especially when it isn't.
It is never alright to express your Self when you are a child of an alcoholic--because they will never 'hear' you. Alcoholics--live their lives in denial--and that means they deny YOU as well. You--the child of an alcoholic or narcissist--do not exist--and your feelings--well--they'll use them against you--twist them like warm pretzels--and shove them up your butt too.
Yes, there is anger in my words--and that's okay, because it is normal, right and good to be angry at parents who were blessed with innocent beings to raise--who instead used them like pawns, and treated them with indifference.
To all those ACoA's out there--who have been treated as if their emotions were irrelevant--this post is for you!
I SEE YOU--AND I FIGHT FOR YOU--WHEN I FIGHT FOR ONE OF US!!!
Namaste...
https://twitter.com/lisaaromano1
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Lisa A. Romano
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