Thursday, November 19, 2015

Having Faith Amidst Terror In The World

Dear Ones,

I was not planning on posting or making a video this week, but I have felt compelled to change my mind and to address the global situation that has so many of us, and especially we empaths on edge.

I do not wish to speak directly of the tragedy, because I wish to shed love and light on this situation like one would spread a blanket over a chair.  It is not about the chair, or the blanket.  It is about containing the response to the chair, and about learning how to manage our emotions during times of great stress.

Make no mistake.  There is a mass consciousness all have the ability to tap into.  If this mass consciousness was one of love and of light, that would be a wonderful thing.  But because we are in a third dimensional reality, most beings alive today are very easily swept up in events they cannot control.

It is important that those of us who see ourselves as keepers of the light, hold true to energetic frequencies that buck fear, pain, and terror.  It is of great importance to our planet, as well as to us as individuals to pay strict attention to 'how we feel."

We help humanity when we stay true to our divine nature.  We are all beings of light, but that does not mean that all beings are light. Some beings are not aware of their divine nature--and have been manipulated by dark beings who hold tremendous power.  Beings who suffer with feelings of powerlessness are much easier swayed than a being who knows his/her true organic nature.  In this 3D world, it is a fact that some are dark beings, and work like sorcerers to bring tragedy to innocent people, who seek to disrupt society, who clammer for attention, and wish to grip the world of fear.

It is of the utmost important that we--the truth seekers--the codependents and empaths who are incredibly susceptible to the energies of others, and particularly to pain, understand how crucial it is to keep our hearts pure, especially now.  Be mindful of what data you allow to be downloaded into your subconscious and conscious minds.  Be selective in what words you use to describe how you feel.

If you remain true to the light, you will transcend the terror and escape the hidden agenda that has been unleashed on our planet.  The hidden agenda is to strike fear in the heart of men, women and children.  If you remain true to your divine, inner light, and you meditate, contemplate, engage in yoga, martial arts, Tai Chi and alike, you will ride out this storm soon enough, and walk away with a deeper understanding of humanity, and your true power.

You, me, us, all people are manipulated through the emotional body.

During this crisis, I ask that you remove yourself from data, images, and conversations that strike fear in your being.  Honor your inner light dear one...

Nurture your emotional body at this time, more than any other--so to avoid getting swept up in the world's addiction to pain, suffering and revenge.

Stay true to the light dear ones!!!


Your sister of the light...


Thursday, November 12, 2015

Narcissism--Global Tyranny In Disguise

There are so many secrets for man to discover on his sacred journey through life.  Perhaps the most illusive however, is the secret that is living right behind his eyes.

Man has been kept in the dark for generations, and perhaps even since the beginning of time.  Although there are those who are awakened, and have transcended the dark energies within their emotional bodies, many are still blind to the greatness within.  Man has coded within his DNA all the potential needed to create abundance, health, love, joy and well being, and yet only 1% of the world's population seems to know how to invoke this potential to its max.

Most beings are ladened with guilt, shame, sorrow, lack, and poor health.  Many beings believe they need and deserve their states and governments to provide for them, which also means they do not believe they can or should provide for themselves.  A mind that believes in entitlement may be unaware that in believing in entitlement he gives up his power to live the life he truly deserves.  Once a being positions himself as a victim, the being is then controlled by those he believes owe him.

Beings who are poor of mind, are rooted in lack.  The lack may be tied to unworthiness of some kind, which will always lead back to fear.  But when man confronts his personal fear, he discovers the fear was nothing more than an illusion, smoke and mirrors created to keep him under a spell, and in a long sleep like state.

Every human being is coded with godlike DNA.  It is the mind however, that has been tainted to believe otherwise.  Why would governments, churches, and educational systems look to hinder a man with fear? Because without fear mans emotions cannot be controlled.

A fearless man, who is also a compassionate being is a man who has the ability to rebuke the illusion of powerlessness.  He is a man who moves about his life effortlessly, with his attention pulled back into his own body, and whose attention is focused purely on the good within, and thus is no longer impacted on the illusions created by the powers at large.

Narcissism, sociopathy, and psychopathy are magnets for empathetic, other focused, codependents.   The fear these dark energy bodies unleash in the homes and hearts of individuals has the potential to cripple a society one family at a time.  Sadly, this crippling dysfunction then carries on throughout future generations.

On a micro level, you and I may be married, engaged or involved with a narcissist, and we may not fully understand the rippling effects these fear based relationships have on a mass level.  But the reality is, NOTHING in this universe does not get registered or returned back to the being from which it came.

On a mass level, we must begin to awaken to the big picture.  When we are sucked into painful dynamics by narcissistic others, our vibrations ripple out into the universe.  Every cell of our being registers that pain, and has the potential to impact how well or how poorly our cells communicate with one another.  In addition, our vibrational frequencies also impact our female and male reproductive organs.  Yes, our eggs and sperms carry frequencies.

On a grand scale our frequencies ripple out into the divine matrix, register, and become like vibrational imprints we become tethered too.  On a mass level, each of us adds to the emotional blueprints or templates of its society both locally and globally.  What you feel matters, dear one!

When we face the dark energies in our homes, we transcend the dark energies of our past, present and even our future.  When we learn to look within, honor the divine self, face the illusions of not-enough-ness, we unleash the godlike potential in us all! Our freedom not only impacts our life for the better, but it adds to the totality of universal energy as well.  Every emotion matters dear one!

May be you motivated to face the fear that you are not enough, for it is an ILLUSION!
May you learn to embrace the only true reality there ever was; you are god incarnate!

You dear one are an extension of creator.  The godlike potential has been seeded into your DNA, and sadly the illusion of fear has kept your mind in the dark.  The fear that you are not enough has caused you to live in the dark, blind to your true divinity, purpose and potential.  The time has come however, for whatever reason--for you to awaken--to hear the trumpet call--and to honor the vibrations of victory.

Pay close attention to how you FEEL dear one--for your feelings connect you to the divine matrix, and will let you know when you are sharing your energy, space, and time with a dark being or a being of light!

When you heal your heart, you help heal the world dear one.

Accept the dark energies and do not waste your energy or vibrations on beings whose agenda it is to keep you stuck and blind to your worthiness.

Surrender to your own divinity.

Seek your own joy.

Create abundance, by knowing your true nature.

Be patient and watch how your reality begins to shift along with your new understanding, and appreciation of Self!

In love and in light precious ones!!!


Monday, November 9, 2015

How To Heal From Codependency and Stop Attracting Narcissists

So often I am asked, "So Miss Lisa, how do I heal from codependency and stop attracting narcissistic people into my life?"

Its such a tough question to answer, primarily because most people really do not have a true grip on how deep an issue codependency really is.  I coach clients who have been in and out of traditional therapies for decades, who have said that not once did a psychologist, psychiatrist or therapist ever mention words like, enmeshment, codependency, or narcissism while they were being treated for anxiety, depression, bipoloar disorder, or BPD like symptoms.


I totally get it, because I saw at least three other therapists before I heard the term 'codependent', and I believe the only reason he shared that insight with me was because he was a recovering codependent himself.  And there you have it! Only a therapist who has successfully achieved emotional liberation from the enmeshing diseased thought process codependency is can spot it in others--and help you heal from it--if you are suffering with it.  Of course--this is only my personal opinion.

Where Do I Start

If you have discovered the answer to your problems is in fact codependency, you have already taken a huge step forward.  You have gone outside the traditional box (modern therapy) and you have begun taking the power back.  Yes, researching on your own, seeking information that resonates with you on a deep level, the kind of information that gives you goose bumps--and alike--is what you should be seeking.  When information is appropriate for you dear one--you will know by the way you FEEL.

Imagine that dear one??? We are supposed to be paying attention to the way we feel!!! What a
freakin' concept that

Should I Seek a Therapist

I do suggest you seek guidance while on this journey--for support--because it can be useful to have someone you know you can rely on when you begin connecting the dots from your past to your present.  Waking up and peeling the denial off of your eyes can be tough.  Like when you finally accept you were a victim of your older brother who molested you when you were in the tub at three years old. OUCH! Yes, that denial band aid hurts like hell when it gets ripped off. But until you are able to ALLOW THAT THREE YEAR OLD HER EXPERIENCE--you cannot heal.  Glossing over it for the sake of f****ed  up family Christmas meals is not worth the pain it keeps us in dear ones!

Slowing The Mind

The single most important thing you can do for yourself is to slow down the mental field.  Codependency is a form of brainwashing.  You've been brainwashed to doubt your right to experience your experiences--and thus the emotions tied to your experiences.  This suppressing of the emotions tied to the experiences is creating your compulsion to stay attached to others--because you fear them seeing the shame others caused you...SCREW THAT DEAR ONES!!! Its not your fault your family was dysfunctional... THIS IS NOT YOUR SHAME.

Meditation helps you slow down the mental field so you can connect to your angel self--which resides in every cell of your being, and you can absolutely communicate with via your heart chakra.  Your sacred self--is found within the center of your being--in your heart space.

Educate Your Self

Fear is what fuels codependency, and learning about codependency helps minimize the fear.  Once you understand how the brainwashing took place, why it took place, and how it is you are attracting others who also brainwash you, fear begins to fade away...YAY!!! Once fear begins to wane, so do the cortisol levels in your body.  Learning to override the fear response is beneficial because it helps create the GAP or the emotional and mental space you need to begin responding differently to the people who are now in your life.

Read all you can about codependency, enmeshment, childhood brainwashing, and childhood emotional neglect.

Get Quiet and talk less..and listen to self more...

You are an angel--in spite of what anyone has ever told you, and even if you are sitting in a jail cell right now.  Wherever you are, you are because of what you have been programmed and brainwashed to believe about your self, others, and the world.

Namaste Dear Ones...

We are the Renegades who refuse to stay quite anymore...Be proud of your courage to face what they have done!

There is much work to be done Dearest.  These suggestions are only the beginning of this sacred journey.

Love to you all,



Thursday, November 5, 2015

Codependency and Boundary Workshop on Mp3 Available Now

If you were unable to attend our live workshop call on Codependency and Boundary building, you can download this Mp3 now.

Codependency is rooted in a lack of self.  When you are raised by people who fail to validate you psychologically, you are programmed to be detached from the self.  Because you are stuck seeking your parents validation, and because you never received it, your adult life tends to become one of enmeshment.  It seems you are on a never ending journey in search of acceptance, belonging and validation.

I created this workshop to help people learn 'how to' take back their personal power, so that they could begin defining their own boundary lines.  Without a solid understanding of the self, it is impossible to be authentic in relationships and to protect oneself from emotional vampires.  Because this is an attraction based universe, and because like attract likes, when you are a codependent who lacks a self--you can only attract a being who is incapable of seeing you as well.

To purchase this workshop on Mp3 you may click the link below.

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Saturday, October 31, 2015

Codependency and Shame

So you grew up in a home with parents who could not or would not 'see' you.  Your home could have been one filled with alcoholism, or it could have been a dry home that looked perfect from the outside.  Whether you grew up with chaos or you grew up feeling like your home was still and sterile, if who you were as a soul was never validated you probably carry a lot of shame.


Children who were treated like their souls-or their emotions were invisible inevitably receive  the message that who they are on an internal level is unworthy.  These feelings of unworthiness cause deep shame.

What Can You Do Now?

One of the best things you can do now, is literally surrender to what has been, and then embrace the power of NOW.  In this moment you can allow yourself to 'see' yourself.  You can finally allow those unexperienced experiences to be expressed.

How Can I Allow These Unexperienced Experiences To Be Expressed?

In order to heal what has been, one must allow the emotions of the past to come up even if they hurt.  Sort of like allowing yourself to acknowledge the pain you might feel in an infected toe, opposed to hating or denying the pain, healing is all about learning to allow your mind to simply take a back seat to the emotional expression of the pain of the past.

No this is not easy, nor is it comfortable, but it is the only way.

1.) learn to meditate and still the mind so you can actually 'feel' what you are feeling
2.) journal each and everyday about what you feel (ask yourself 'How do I feef?')
3.) remind yourself daily that you are not six anymore
4.) learn to find the gap before you answer any other persons questions
5.) learn new terms like, "I will need time to get back to you on that."

These are just a few suggestions to help you begin your journey, but they are lifesavers regardless of what stage you are at on your path.

In love and in light dear ones!

Friday, October 30, 2015

What The Hell Is Codependency?

Over the years the term codependency has taken on many meanings.  Originally the term was coined to describe the partners and family members of alcoholics.  Counselors noted that family members of the self absorbed alcoholics presented with similar symptoms.  Spouses generally catered to the needs of the alcoholic, while ignoring needs of their own.  As time has passed the term 'codependency' has truly evolved.  We now understand this term in much greater detail, and with these new understandings come much awaited emotional relief.


When I was on the verge of having a nervous breakdown, it was complete terror that drove me to a therapists office.  I was stunned yet relieved when he said, "Well, you're not crazy, but you are codependent." My mind swirled with, "Wait what? I am not married to an alcoholic. How can this diagnosis fit?"

With absolutely nowhere else to turn, I delve into learning all I could about the term 'codependency'.  What I learned altered the course of my life forever.  And although my recovery has certainly evolved, and continues to deepen as time goes on, embracing information I could never have known was the aspect of journey that made the difference.  I could never have known I was codependent, or that my belief systems were destroying my life.  Everyone in my life was codependent.  It was our norm.


As a Life Coach who specializes in 'codependency recovery' and who has written and published six books on the topic, I am often asked, "How did this happen? How and why did I become codependent?" The following few key ideas may help you understand the how and the why of this distorted perception of life and ourselves we call codependency.


Children need to be validated, appreciated, and honored by their parents.  Innately we all need to have our root, tribal instincts met.  We absolutely require a sense of belonging in order to hit the proper emotional milestones that allow for healthy opinions of Self.  When your are perceived as a pain in the ass, a burden, an obligation, and or you are abused, treated with indifference, or ignored, you are brainwashed to believe that you are unworthy of love, acceptance, respect and common dignity.

The reception your parents present to you--forms your perception of Self, and so if you were received as if your feelings were insignificant in contrast to your mother or father's, or to another family members, the message you received is, "I am not enough."


The decisions your psyche made about your value are now dictating every thought you think, and every action you take, or choose not to take.  Because we did not receive the validation we deserved, we are now in an holding pattern caught in desperate loops that are being guided by our unconscious need to be validated.


Because codependents are giant five year olds, we frustrate easily, stuff our feelings, try to be liked, pretend we don't have needs, we blow up when we are pushed too far because we lack boundaries, we say yes, when we mean no, and no when we mean yes.  So fearful of being abandoned yet again, many of us fear confrontation and wind up living our lives trying to keep our abusers from getting too upset.  Like small children, we make ourselves small so that the big, scary people in our lives don't say anything to hurt our feelings.


Some codependents are quite controlling.  So repelled by the idea of being ignored as a child, anytime a being is reminded that he/she is not being paid attention to, the blind codependent will react like a frustrated child.  Codependents new to the recovery process need to accept early on that others really are not responsible for making sure they are comfortable.  Its a fine line.  Yes, when we were younger our caretakers did help formulate our opinions, beliefs and emotions.  But as adults, healing requires us to accept that in this time and space our healthiest move is in learning to accept that others have the right to be who they are.  Our power is found in deciding who we want to share our sandbox with, and who we don't.

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